One tantruming toddler I can handle. Two is bearable. Three is pushing it and when they all throw a tantrum at the same time, it just about pushes me over the edge. The noise!
I know tantrums are part of the package with toddlers. I guess there has to be something to balance the incredibly funny conversations and sweet cuddles. But tantrums are just horrible for both the child and the parent.
Charlie is fairly new to throwing a wobbler. He's hit the age where he knows what he wants but can't yet ask for it. Sure he can say a few words and point but often it's not enough. He's discovered he can get on the kitchen table without assistance and is never happy to be removed. Sometimes he just wants to be doing whatever Ava and Noah are doing even if he's too young. All of these lead to a red-faced, screaming Charlie.
Noah used to be the master of tantrums. He would throw himself on the floor and bang his head repeatedly. Luckily, he seems to have outgrown the violent tantrums and now just goes for the regular kind. Usually because I've brought his drink in the wrong beaker or I've asked him to wear something he doesn't want to wear.
Ava now tends to sulk or answer back rather than throw a tantrum but they do still occur occasionally. I'm not sure if the backchat is an improvement or not!
In order to try and bring a little peace to our house, I'm finally going to get around to reading Happiest Toddler on the Block by Dr Harvey Karp (it's also available on DVD) . As I've mentioned before, I was a huge fan of Happiest Baby on the Block. I just wish I'd read it when I had Ava.
I love the idea that toddlers are like 'little cavemen'. I really can't think of a better way to describe my children sometimes. Especially when they're refusing to wear clothes again.
Dr Harvey Karp recommends using 'toddlerese' to diffuse tantrums. I'm pretty certain I'm going to feel a little silly at first but if it works I'm happy to give it a go.
I'll be sure to update soon with what I think of the book and whether it's helped us at all.
Do your children have tantrums? How do you deal with them?